Pelvic Floor Issues

Please help. I have had pain in the past during sex. The last time i had sex was several months ago with my hubby. Since it was painful. I just stopped having sex. I was not brave enough to go to the doctor until this week. A little history. I am 45 years old and overweight. Several years ago, i had a feeling like things were dropping a little. It wasn't bad but slightly uncomfortable. I made an appt with a nurse, she looked and said it could be pelvic floor issues and she suggested i return for another appt and see a doctor. So i did that, the doctor assured me that all was well and nothing was dropping. My bladder, vagina and uterus were all in the correct places. He also said it would be very rare since i had csections and not vaginal birth for it to happen. So i just had a little discomfort occasionally and after sex it would just be slighty uncomfortable. My husband and i had a perfectly normal and enjoyable sex life.

So back to the present. I put off going to the doctor but i also had not had a pap in 5 years . I just went to the Dr this past Monday and told him what was going on. He did a pelvic exam and also a pap test. He asked a million questions about what type of pain, where , from what etc etc. When he did the internal pelvic exam and pap, it was very uncomfortable bordering on painful. I could only describe to him that things feel almost closed up sometimes. When he finished the exam, he told me i was having pelvic spasms and my muscles would not relax which makes it hard to have sex and use the bathroom. He said he does not think i need surgery but has scheduled an ultrasound in a few weeks.

Once i got home, i googled all the symptoms , treatments and such. I am so scared. I know I am not a spring chicken but the thought of dealing with this and not having sex for the rest of my life with my husband of only a year is devastating to me. All i know is right now if i tried to have sex i would be screaming in pain. PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME THIS CAN BE FIXED!! Is this something I will have all my life??? I am very sad and worried.

I am also worried about the results of the pap. What if i had abnormal cells and five years later they have developed into cancer? I have sooooo many other health issues this one just is the last straw for me. It affects my health and relationship. My husband is awesome and said we will get through this and also said if we can never have sex again, that it will be ok.

I just want to hear from others that have dealt with this and what the treatments and results were. Sorry so long.

Pelvic Floor Issues